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|With a little help
from my friends
Friendship doubles our joy and divides
our grief.-- Swedish proverb
more fun when you can share it with friends. And it helps to have someone
along on the ride when you're going through a hard time: dealing with
a problem, living through loss, or experiencing depression
accept you as you are without judgment. Little things, like talking over
a cup of coffee, can make you feel connected to them.
friend is someone who you like, respect, and trust, and who likes, respects
and trusts you. He/she is someone who gives you good advice when you ask
for it and works with you in difficult situations to figure out what to
Often, if you're struggling
with depression, you don't want to see people or go out, but that could
be just what you need to do to feel better.
"When I'm feeling
down," says Suzanne M. "I don't want my friends to see me that
way and I don't want to ruin their fun. I turn down a lot of invitations.
Then I feel lonely, sorry for myself and even more depressed," she
says. "But, when I do join them, I usually have a good time and feel
refreshed for days afterward."
How can I make new friends?
- Try something
new. Take a class where you'll meet
others who share your interests.
Join a local gym or walking group.
- Chat with folks at the dog park
(but take a dog.)
- Say yes.
Accept invitations to social gatherings even if you're feeling anxious. You can stay only as long as you're feeling
- Be bold. Invite someone you'd like to get to know better for coffee, lunch or
another activity. "I'm going to that street fair next weekend.
Would you like to join me?"
Pitch in on a fundraising event, help serve meals at a shelter or serve
on a committee. It's a rewarding way to meet people and feel good about
can be good places to meet people, but be cautious about people who
have problems that can add to your own.
makes a good friend?
Make new friends who
aren't just like you. You'll find that people whose age, interests and
views are different from yours are interesting and energizing. And you'll
learn and grow.
Choose friends who
have a positive attitude and enjoy life. It's contagious.
Work on having several
friends so that someone is always available when you would like companionship
or support. Try not to become dependent on one or two friends.
can I keep friendships going?
- Stay in touch
with old friends and new. Plan your next meeting.
But take your cues from them about how often you should call.
- Be a good listener.
feedback, with comments such as, "I knew you could do it,"
or "I bet you wish it had happened some other way." Give advice
only if they ask for it.
- Be positive.
Talk often about how you're working on improving your life rather than
focusing on your problems.
- Learn to recognize
an unhealthy relationship. If it isn't mutually satisfying, the time
you devote may be better spent cultivating a new one.
What will you do this week to nurture a friendship?
- calling one friend
or someone you know well.
- doing something
nice for someone else.
- going somewhere
where you might meet new people.
How to help someone with
a mental illness
Moods and misunderstandings
Take time out for you
US Dept of Health
& Human Service
Page updated September 1, 2010