New life: how to calm down after a divorce
After the divorce, you need to avoid depression and regain the taste of life
Divorce is a forced measure in any relationship, if to be together, unfortunately, is no longer possible. However, you should not continue to blame yourself after the divorce or for months to be depressed. How to start a new life after a divorce and enjoy everything that happens around — read our collection of tips.
How to calm down after a divorce
Allow yourself to survive the divorce in full force with all the accompanying feelings. Cry as much as you want, talk about what hurts, MOPE and act up if necessary. Be natural and considerate to yourself in the post-divorce period. To pretend that the door to the past immediately slammed shut, and with you all right, meaningless, so just help yourself to calm down as soon as possible and survive the divorce.
Allow yourself to feel sorry if you feel that you really need it now, and your strength is not enough. Complaining is sometimes very helpful. Only trust your pain to those who will be able to sincerely support or just calmly listen.
Find yourself a good psychologist. You need to talk. After all, often, speaking out loud, we hear ourselves quite differently than in mental reasoning. Thus, there are answers to many difficult questions that will help you to calm down after the divorce.
Take a timeout. Allow yourself to take a break and not make any important decisions during this period. Let the brain and psyche return to a more or less stable state, when you can think soberly and rationally.
Suffer «by the hour.» Choose a few hours a week when to dive into negative experiences, thoughts and emotions. If a wave of negativity covers at another time, say «stop» and return to these thoughts at the designated hours. The technique of delay will allow you to maintain efficiency, as mental chewing gum, negative emotions and suffering take a lot of strength, which is already in short supply.
Get creative. Remember what brought you joy in your childhood or youth and focus on your new Hobbies and achievements. Remember that you live your life and do not spend it on looking back towards the one with whom you broke up.
Thank this world. Thank the Creator, parents themselves and, necessarily, the former spouse. And then smile at your future, bright and joyful.